Drenth Despite their status as Introverts and Thinkers, INTJs are as interested in relationships as most other personality types.

When it comes to forming and developing relationships, INTJs often have a few factors working against them.

For one, they express themselves via their auxiliary Te rather than Fe.

INTJs may also be labeled as excessively stubborn or rigid, although this too relates to Te-related misunderstandings.

As we’ve seen, INTJs are best viewed as dominant Perceivers, so while they may appear stubborn in a moment of judgment, their preferred state is one of inner openness.

One way in which Fi may influence INTJs’ relationships is by inspiring a sort of “savior complex” in the INTJ.

We’ve already seen how, as J types, INTJs are prone to seeing and diagnosing problems outside themselves.

Although not afraid to assert themselves via their auxiliary function, Extraverted Thinking (Te), the INTJ is naturally more passive, even somewhat phlegmatic in his or her presentation.

More proactive types, such as ENTJs, might even consider the INTJ a bit lazy or apathetic.

For one, INTJs with a history of relational difficulties can be prone to attribute those failures to psychological problems in their partners, thereby failing to see their own shortcomings.