I’m exaggerating the stereotype of someone with a ton of sass in a humorous light.

I noticed how pronounced her dimples were and I genuinely thought they were adorable, so I told her.

They don’t know you, they haven’t met you face-to-face, and they don’t want to get stuck on a bad date.

In my research, I’ve found that a woman’s #1 fear online is that a guy will be awkward, creepy, or intense in-person.

Although the data shows this advice holds true for both sexes, it’s mostly directed at guys, because they are way more likely to talk about looks.

You might think that words like are nice things to say to someone, but no one wants to hear them.

Some girls just won’t, it’s inevitable and part of the process.

Accept it, don’t take it personally, and keep pressing on.

We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, Ok Cupid.

Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant.

On the other hand, more general compliments seem to work well: is almost always used to describe the way something or someone looks, and you can see how that works out. After all, the way you choose to start your initial message to someone is the “first impression of your first impression.” The results surprised us: perform better, bucking the general “be literate” rule.

In fact, it’s smarter to use no traditional salutation at all (which earns you the reply rate of 27%) and just dive into whatever you have to say than to start with all did very well.

She’ll likely smile while thinking of funny memories and be inspired to respond.