With all the awareness about cougars out there, you'd think that men would be experts by now on how to snare them.

Don't use her for a short-term cougar affair - unless she is up for it too.

It's also important to consider what you want from the relationship.

Just because Demi and Ashton or Tim and Susan made it work doesn't mean that we can say age doesn't matter. Since every person is an individual, every single relationship is different, and only the people actually in a relationship can make the call.

In a society where teeny boppers seemed to rule, it is refreshing that forty has become the new thirty, and that women are finally thought to improve with age like men do.

If you really want to impress friends (and learn a thing or two on the way), go after the alpha. We've got a very fulfilling life already, and whether or not you ask us for our number isn't going to make or break our evening. No need to flaunt the latest version of PS3 you just bought.

That's why we're happy to sit back and smile with amusement while you test out all your pick-up lines. Flirty e-mails, texts asking what we're wearing -- we eat that shit up. Though Botox may have disguised them well, we've earned a healthy number of wrinkles from a lifetime of complicated relationships. We've already dated someone who makes fifteen times the amount you do.

She loves to hear from anyone who has read her books.

This is a great character study in romance and the first of the series. I definitely recommend this author and her books to anyone who loves a good romance and likes to laugh.

Believe me, I can understand the appeal of an older woman.